I received a suggestion from one of my lovely followers to talk about my personal “best” BDSM aesthetic. I realized that I’ve never really talked about my preferences! I’m sure I’ve hinted at them in other posts and I’ve sure as hell put my opinion out there! But I’ve never talked about what I like!
So here goes!
Neither me nor kitten are really into pain. I can deliver it to an extent but since it doesn’t interest kitten I don’t feel the need to participate in it in my personal life.
Our relationship is protocol based. We have a set of rules and I write out a schedule for her every week that has a list of chores meant to maintain our home and practice good house keeping habits. Taking care of my home and my life is what I expect of my kitten. We are both busy, though, so I do help out but most of the cleaning is on her.
I would eventually like to be in a place where I can support her financially and she can stay home and take care of our home and (eventual) children full time. That has always been my dream, even before kink.
As for my aesthetic…I love the late 1950’s early 1960’s aesthetic. I’ll take a curvy pin-up girl over a porn star any day! Winged eyeliner, red lipstick and swing skirts all day long! We also typically play big band music while cleaning the house. We both just love the feel of it.
I like to think that my Dom style is gentle but firm. My punishments do not revolve around physical reprimand. I don’t want my kitten to fear me…I don’t want to have to cane her and so I don’t. When I feel that my kitten is out of line I put her in time out, have her write lines or present an essay on her wrong doing to me. These exercises make her think about what she did and why it was wrong and that’s what I like.
Especially in America. There is a series on Netflix called “strange sex” And It showcases some medical conditions but it also showcases fetishes. I hate that in this culture when we see people who have a different sexual preference we label it as ‘Strange’. As far as I’m concerned this show should just be called “Sex”.
Consenting adults have every right to do what they want with each other no matter what it is (Aside from things like non consensual rape, murder, anything to do with a child or animal etc.). A person who has a latex fetish, balloon fetish or adult baby fetish should not be made to feel guilty.
It comes down to things that aren’t even kinky! There are many people out there who are looked down on because they may like fisting or anal sex. These are perfectly natural occurrences and can feel good and be fulfilling if done safely. Just because someone does something that YOU don’t find erotic does NOT give you the grounds to condemn them.
I’m tired of the media and people exploiting people’s sexual preferences and deeming them ‘innapropriate’ or ‘sinful’. It’s just not right. Every single person on this planet has the right to pursue happiness as long as it’s not at the expense of another person.
SEX IS A NATURAL THING. And as humans we are lucky enough that it is something that is done for pleasure, not just breeding. Take advantage of the card nature dealt us! Besides the only reason people watch these shows and read ‘kinky’ stories is becuase there is some curiosity there for them. Embrace it. Don’t feel guilty or dirty.
I am making it my personal goal to be a positive thinker about sex. I’m tired of the puritanical view society has shoved down our throats regarding the issue. From the time I lost my virginity at 15 and realized I had certain fetishes I felt wrong and dirty and like I shouldn’t be having these thoughts. It was awful. And I don’t want other people to feel like that. If people have questions there should be a safe place to go to get those answers where they don’t have to feel judged.