Oh my! So this is interesting

A company called William’s trading co. has created an on-the-go kink kit! This seems like a beautiful thing to be honest.  I know that I feel so away from home without all my favorite toys but bringing my bulky trunk on trips with me is pretty much impossible. Here is the link to the press release about this product: Pocket Dungeon

Essentially it is a lovely little leather case that comes with some accessories all kinksters need. There is a little retractable metal handle that comes with various attachments that will turn it into a flogger, a crop, a cat ‘o nine tails or various other little fun toys! There is a small version of the kit and a large version that comes with the previously mentioned little tool as well as a gag, cuffs, blind fold , door attachment, nipple clamps and a few other things.

Over-all this seems like a really cool toy and I hope maybe one day I can get a little sample or possibly purchase one of my own! I do travel between states often so it seems like something worth adding to my list.

-Sir

50 shades of shit: Chapter 1

She opens by trying to “tame her hair into submission”. Knowing what is coming and what this book is about? That is just some cheesy shit writing. 

As I was trying to push through this first chapter I said to myself “Gee…I wonder how much of this shit storm I can skip before I get to anything worth correcting or commenting on”. The answer? Page 11.

So for those of you who are blessed enough to have never opened this book; Miss Anastasia Steele is filling in for her “Friend” (I only put this in quotations because she seems completely two faced and completely uncaring towards her sick friend and complains about having been ‘forced’ to do this, internally. But to her friends face she’s all smiles and “Oh no problem sweet heart! You rest!”) in order to interview Mr. Grey who is the owner of a huge industrial company or some shit (It was hard to pay attention). 

During this interview she asks him a series of questions put together by her sick friend and he cocks his head to the side and smirks a lot. Through out the entire interview he constantly talks about how he NEEDS to have control and how he wants to posses things. He admits to being a control freak and she identifies him as such. 

Let me tell you a secret kiddies. Having and overwhelmingly controlling personality is a sign of a MENTAL disorder and should probably be addressed. And if you have this kind of problems and you aren’t actively in counseling for them YOU PROBABLY SHOULDN’T BE A DOM. 

Also during this interview he mentions that he has power because if he decided to cut down his telecommunications department his employees would have trouble paying their bills. Wow…What an asshole thing to say. AND SHE EVEN REALIZES HE HAS NO HUMANITY AND MAKES A MENTAL NOTE OF IT. But its okay. Because later on he casually makes a comment about how he’s worried about feeding hungry people and that’s why he invests in farming technology.

Oh wait. No. That’s not concern for people. That’s just more money in your pocket. So you’re still a fucking ass hat. 

And if you’re defining power as having the ability to HURT people and holding it over their heads…Get out. Especially people who aren’t even involved in a BDSM relationship with you. I get the whole dynamic of ‘i could break you; But I won’t” and the trust that entails. BUT THESE ARE JUST NORMAL PEOPLE WHO WORK FOR HIM AND HE SEES EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM AS A SUBMISSIVE. 

NOT OKAY.

NOT HEALTHY.

But who cares of he’s a controlling dick who doesn’t care about anything but being powerful and satisfying his own sadistic desire to control everyone’s lives. He’s dressed well…And is attractive. And his gaze ‘penetrates’ her and makes her flush deep….Also something about muscles deep in her belly clenching. That isn’t even an attractive phrase. 

Wow. 

-Sir

Q: Sir, I have been in a relationship for the past year, and he is the first lover who has been able to bring out a more playful side in me. Early on, we identified our roles. He was dominant and I was submissive and we came to this understanding quite naturally. I’m not into leather or restraints though. By dominant I mean that I like him to take charge, to be in control. I was curious about such things before, but not to the extent that I experimented with them the way I do now. Is it possible to meet a person who brings that out in you?

Hello! 

Glad to get my first e-mail! Well, the question seems a bit vague but I will answer as best I can. Please feel free to ask any follow up questions you may have! 

I think it is very possible to find someone who brings this side out. It’s all about comfort level. If you’re with someone who you don’t feel comfortable experimenting with you’ll never learn what you truly enjoy. Kink and BDSM is all about crossing the thresh hold of the unknown and while limits are limits and should be adhered to…Everyone has those little things that sit in the back of their minds, waiting for the opportunity to come out and play.

Having someone who is open to exploring these little ideas is key to discovering yourself in a sexual way. I think very few people come into sex knowing exactly what they want and what they like and those things are altered as you experience more.

So yes. I do believe that a person who might have no interest in kink, or just a little, can find someone to bring out that side of them through exploration and experimentation. 

-Sir

Who am I?

I am a Sir. I will always be a Sir. Never a Master or an Owner. I have nothing against people who are; These titles just don’t fit me. I have been interested in the BDSM community for a long time and made great friends within it. I wouldn’t trade my experiences with this lifestyle for the world.
My kitty isn’t under my control 100% all the time. Its not how I would want things and this is where I differ from most dominants. I love control and I love having control over her but I can’t have that if she does not want to give it to me. I know she would do what I asked of her (within reason) and that is all I require as a dominant.

She is my world and I’m pretty sure I am hers ❤ I want to spend the rest of my life caring for her and providing for her. I want her to be my Kitten, my housewife, my lover and my companion. Even in our D/s relationship I consider us equals. She will never be below me or less important than me. I will never let my pride get in the way of me being a good dominant. I will give orders with love and respect and always make sure she has what she needs and wants.

– Sir